How to navigate family dynamics and political disagreements this Thanksgiving
Does your Thanksgiving turkey come with a side of angst?
You’re not alone, said Dr. Marva Robinson, a clinical psychologist who said many of her patients experience stress during this time of year.
“I have a lot of people that become a little bit worried about how soon they should start cooking, how much they have to cook, how many people they're preparing for,” she told St. Louis on the Air guest host Jeremy D. Goodwin.
“So we have very open conversations around: ‘What are the holidays supposed to be about for you? What is joy for you? What is peace for you?’ And if cooking for a week in advance and cleaning dishes for five hours isn't something that's joyful for you, then we may want to reconsider what that looks like.”
She joined Tuesday’s show to discuss how to navigate complex family dynamics and hot-button topics that may come up during gatherings this holiday season.
“This is a time where it is not likely you will change someone's opinion in that moment. It is more likely that the individual will dig their heels in,” Robinson said. “I love ‘the pivot’ … finding a different way to break the tension. For some, it may be introducing humor. For others, it may be breaking out a board game. For others, it just may be a bit of awkward silence and just changing the topic.”
And if you want to keep the conversation going, she added, it’s best to broach the conversation later.
“The average individual may be less willing to bend, so to speak, when there's an audience present, versus if it's a one-on-one conversation. So if I really want to just share information, I probably do that a week later when I go by to drop off a pie or something,” Robinson said. “But doing it when there is an audience may not be the best time to get them to change their mind.”
For more tips on navigating complex family and friend dynamics, listen to Robinson’s conversation on St. Louis on the Air on Apple Podcast, Spotify, Google Podcast, Stitcher, or by clicking the play button below.
And it bears remembering that many of our neighbors won’t be fortunate enough to enjoy a nice warm feast on Thursday. Here are some organizations that help people find food and shelter:
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